Are You Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy?
Being pregnant is the last thing you expected and you’re at a loss for what to do. Worries plague your mind and emotions overwhelm you. Am I going to survive this? Who do I go to for help? What are my next steps? Life, overall, feels like an insurmountable challenge.
1. You Are Not Alone
You’re not alone! Adoption Choices of New York knows that this isn’t what you imagined, what you envisioned for your child. But life doesn’t always go as planned. You’re not the first woman to face an unplanned pregnancy, and you certainly won’t be the last. Contact one of our adoption professionals today, and let us lend a hand.
2. What Options do I have for my Unplanned Pregnancy?
As realization of your unplanned pregnancy sets it, your brain can experience numbness or shock. Even a wave of terror. But your life isn’t over. You aren’t alone, and you have options available. Three, to be exact. You can either continue the pregnancy and become a parent, terminate or make a plan for adoption.
It’s important that you research each option thoroughly and that you don’t make any quick decisions. Also, be sure to call your doctor or OB/GYN to make an appointment. This can help determine how far along you are in the pregnancy and what your next steps should be.
3. Parenting vs. Adoption
You may consider parenting your child. While unexpected motherhood is challenging, it’s not impossible! Nevertheless, ask yourself the following questions before making a decision:
- Can I give my son or daughter the life he or she deserves?
- Am I willing to work hard to put myself in a better place for my child?
If you’re determined to take steps to provide a better situation for your unborn child, start by visiting your healthcare provider. Not only will your doctor make sure that you and your baby are healthy, but he or she can also be a good source for your mental well-being. Raising a child isn’t easy, but there is help that exists. You don’t have to go through this alone.
4. Termination vs. Adoption
If you don’t feel ready to become a parent at this point in your life, you have the right to choose termination. Remember that abortion laws vary by state. New York’s Reproductive Health Act permits abortions when a woman is within twenty-four weeks. After the twenty-four week mark, there must be an absence of fetal viability or evidence that the woman’s life and health are at risk. This must all be determined through the reasonable and good faith judgement of a medical professional.
Be sure to consult an adoption lawyer, adoption professional or your healthcare provider for more details on this.
5. I Don’t Want to Parent or Terminate. What Do I Do?
If parenting or terminating your unplanned pregnancy don’t sound like the right path for you, adoption is always an option. Adoption allows you the opportunity to give your child a life you wish you were able to – one full of safety and security. It doesn’t matter how early or late you are in your pregnancy. However, the earlier you contact an adoption professional, the sooner you can start receiving necessary prenatal care, housing assistance, financial aid for living expenses, and more.
Adoption will always be free to you, and our fully-trained and compassionate staff will make sure you receive the services you need to have a successful adoption journey.
6. Tips to Cope with an Unplanned Pregnancy
Going through an unplanned pregnancy can invoke a range of emotions from fear to insecurity, to frustration and confusion, stress and depression. It is a life-changing moment in which you have to decide your future. Yet, through this whirlwind, your main priority should be on your health and the health of your baby.
Try and remain as calm and relaxed as you can throughout your pregnancy. Stress is a major threat to the health of your baby and yourself. One of the best ways to eliminate (or at least reduce) stress is to feel prepared. If you understand all the steps involved and what to expect when, you’ll have nothing to stress about. If you are considering adoption as an option for your unplanned pregnancy, we would love to talk to you! Don’t hesitate to reach out. Adoption Choices of New York is more than happy to answer any questions and address any concerns you may have.
7. Support Groups and Counseling Resources for an Unplanned Pregnancy
We hear you loud and clear. Deciding to place your baby for adoption is an emotion-filled journey. It’s not easy to make alone. Adoption Choices of New York knows how important it is for you to stay healthy and feel taken care of throughout the process. We have good news for you! We have counseling services available to help you put together a customized plan that you are 100% comfortable with.
Our counseling services extend to the birth father and any other children who would like it as well. Adoption is in an intricate process, and we want you to have as much support, love and care as possible so that you feel confident about whatever the future brings you.
And the best part? Our counseling services are FREE!!