The door clicks shut as your social worker departs. A sigh of relief escapes you. Your final home study interview and home visit has reached its conclusion, and the home study process is complete. All the paperwork has been gathered, filled out and signed, and in the hands of the social worker. Congratulations! You made it!
The Waiting Game
Welcome to the “waiting game.” The portion of time between the completion of the home study, and the adoption finalization process. However, this quieter duration can be a blessing in disguise if used in the appropriate way.
One, it will give you time to de-stress and wind down from the hectic home study interviews and home visits. Two, it will gift you the hours needed to make any changes suggested by the social worker. Perhaps this would be a good time to go shopping for baby supplies, or test all appliances.
Connect and Celebrate
Don’t forget to celebrate! After all the weeks, months and years you’ve spent searching and praying for a child, your dream is finally coming true! Enjoy this brief reprieve before the whirlwind of matching, bringing your new baby home and then adoption finalization. You’ll be thankful you did.
If you have the opportunity, while you are celebrating and spending time with friends and family, try and connect with others who have adopted. Ask them about their experiences, and how they used the waiting period. This can really help you process whatever emotions you are experiencing, and prepare you for the lifelong journey ahead.
Another benefit of this in-between time is to gather additional funds for the upcoming adoption expenses. Most likely, you’ve already done a lot of research pertaining to this, and have crafted a potential budget that works best with your current finances. However, you can never be too prepared.
If you haven’t already, it would be beneficial to apply for the available adoption grants, too. There are several excellent resources out there. Be sure to check out the grants for prospective adoptive parents through our friends at Adoption Choices of Nevada.
Tying Up Loose Ends
Your social worker may follow up with you after the last home visit. This is just to make sure they gathered all the required and state-mandated documents. When your social worker completes your home study process, they draft a report of everything they learned. They then present this to the court during the adoption finalization process. If you’d like to have the opportunity to review this report, be sure to check directly with your adoption agency and social worker to see if this is possible. Some states and agencies differ on this.
The adoption finalization process typically occurs anywhere from three months to a year following placement. Your social worker will conduct post placement visits approximately every 30 days between when your child comes home, and when you appear in court for adoption finalization.
Adoption Choices of New York
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.
Make an Impact
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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