Top 5 Ways Adoption Positively Impacts a Birth Mother
Sometimes, there can be a sense of doubt or guilt when pregnant women are wrestling with the idea of whether to give their child up for adoption. These feelings are completely valid and understandable considering how big of a choice this will be. We are here to help you understand that if you do eventually decide to give your child up for adoption, that there are benefits both for you, and your child.
At Adoption Choices of New York, we are here to guide you through this time and empower you to make the choices that best suit you. In this article, we hope to let you know about the ways adoption positively impacts a birth mother.
- You are More Likely to become Educated
Raising a child is a big commitment, and it could possibly have an impact on your education. According to the National Conference of State Legislatures (NCSL), only 40% of young mothers finish high school. Raising a child unprepared can also affect college education as well. Many pregnant women feel that they want to continue their education, and that it is not a good time for them to raise a baby.
If your education is important to you, and you do not think raising a child at this stage in your life will allow you to continue, adoption may have a positive impact on your life. A college education opens up more career paths and opportunities in the future, which can lead to more stability and comfort overall.
- You will have More Financial Security
Children are expensive, and whether you already have the number of children you want already or feel unprepared to have any children at all, motherhood can require more resource than you currently have.s If you do not feel like you are ready for this kind of financial responsibility it is entirely understandable to want to look for other options available. Sometimes, adoption may be the most responsible choice for the place you are at in your life.
If you are wanting to give your child up for adoption and are worried about the fees associated with hospital care and other necessities, we are glad to discuss options that may be available to you.
- You can Continue to Pursue Your Goals
Many of us when we are younger have daydreams about what our future life will look like- when we will get married, what kind of job we will have, where we will live, and when, or if, we will have children. Having an unexpected pregnancy can change the way these plans look to us, and you may be wondering if you will be able to achieve all of your dreams and goals the way you once thought you would.
It is not irresponsible to decide your previous life plan is still something you wish to pursue, and maybe right now having a baby just won’t work. Luckily, there are plenty of families looking for a child of their own and who are in a place in their life where they are ready. Whether you want a child in two years, five years, or never, it is important that you feel that you are in control of your own life.
- You have Control
When approaching our agency to give your child up for adoption, you have complete control over what that will look like. If you feel uncomfortable with your child going to a family you have never met, we will make sure you are in the driver’s seat during the whole process. On the flip side, if you want to have complete anonymity and do not want to have a large role in the selection process, we will also support you in that. Visitation, the exchange of contact information, and how much history you share can all be worked out during the adoption process. Much of this will be determined by whether you want an open, semi-open, or closed adoption.
We believe that pregnant women have complete agency, and we hope you understand we want you to understand that we are here to play a supporting role in this process.
- You will Know You Made the Right Choice for Your Child
Sometimes, people may try to convince birth mothers that are making a harmful decision when they place their child up for adoption, but this could not be further from the truth. Just the fact that you are carefully weighing your options and looking for assistance shows that you are putting careful consideration into this choice. If anything, if you are not ready for a child, weighing your options shows that you care. Because this decision can be stigmatized and difficult, sometimes you may fall into doubt and believe you are not making the right choice; however, remember that you know what is best.
So, if you make the choice to put your child up for adoption, know that you are making a decision that not only positively impacts you, but your child as well.
Ways Adoption Positively Impacts a Birth Mother
Here at Adoption Choices of New York, we believe that pregnant women have the right to make the decisions that are best for them, and we hope that you will contact us with any inquiries you may have about adoption. We hope we helped you understand some new ways adoption positively impacts a birth mother.
