The 6 Best Reasons to Choose LGBT Adoptive Parents as a Birth Mother
Selecting the prospective adoptive parents who will raise your child isn’t an easy decision. There are a lot of factors involved. However, your adoption caseworker will help you determine what kind of family is the best fit. If you have any specific wishes or requirements, be sure to let us know so we can use those to match you with waiting adoptive parents. Do you want your child’s family to have pets? Live in a diverse neighborhood? Do you have a preference on whether or not your child is raised in a two-parent or one-parent home? Are you open to a gay couple or individual adopting your child?
Throughout the month of June, and in celebration of Pride Month, we at Adoption Choices of New York want to highlight the reasons to choose same sex adoptive parents as a birth mother. If you are open to considering a two dad or two mom home for your child, this resource will give you insight on the benefits of that.
Reasons to Choose LGBT Adoptive Parents as a Birth Mother
1) Your child will be raised to be more confident in themselves
People in the LGBT community have all had to stand up with pride in themselves despite what others may think. This life experience can translate to their children, so they can be confident in who they are, too. Your child will be able to look at their adoptive parents as role models in self-acceptance. He or she can see themselves as perfectly made, just the way they are.
2) Adoption is an LGBT parents’ #1 choice
Because LGBT members can’t conceive naturally, they look to adoption as the way to grow their family. As a birth mother, this can provide you with a sense of comfort and encouragement, knowing that your child will be loved and cherished. That the LGBT couple or individual are excited and ready to parent. Also, that you are helping an LGBT adoptive parent have the family they’ve always dreamed of, but never thought possible.
3) LGBT adoptive families tend to be more involved
Adoption has been denied to LGBT couples and individuals for years. Many hopeful adoptive parents have gone without the family they’ve wanted their whole lives. So, when they finally have the opportunity to fulfill their dreams of parenthood, it’s typically something they really want to do. LGBT parents are often highly motivated to have active roles in their children’s lives. This increased involvement has led to better sociability, confidence and higher school performance.
4) Your child will be raised in an open-minded household
You may want your child to grow up with certain ideals. Choosing LGBT adoptive parents is one way to ensure your child is raised to support human rights and encourage empathy. To be more accepting of others and have a stronger and healthier view of tolerance as well. LGBT adoptive families are wonderful role models in celebrating diversity. Supporting one another’s differences encourages self-love, and respect for everyone’s individuality.
5) Your child will be well-adjusted to face adversity
Children raised in same sex households are just as well-adjusted as children raised in heterosexual households. The most important thing is that the child is placed in a healthy, happy household. That they are loved, valued, and cared for. LGBT parents have all faced adversity and change, and they can help your child learn these skills for whatever their life holds for him or her. Children will grow best in a place they can feel safe and secure.
6) Same-sex parents can still fill opposite gender roles
Some believe that a child must be raised by a male and female parent. However, families come in all shapes and sizes. It’s not always two parents, and a family doesn’t have to be two parents of the same gender either. A mother can play sports with a child and fix things around the house just as well as a father can paint his child’s nails. When helping the child with specific aspects of childhood and adolescence–such as periods and face-shaving–parents can always use their network for help. As the saying goes, it takes a village.
Choose Adoptive Parents for Your Child
Adoption Choices of New York hopes this list helps you see the many reasons to choose same sex adoptive parents as a birth mother. Deciding who will raise your child into the adult he or she is meant to be isn’t one to be taken lightly. That’s why we are here to help you research and get as much information as possible, so that you can choose the best fit for your child. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that your child is placed with a loving adoptive family.
Meet the Author: Tara Giuffre has always loved reading and writing and grew up in the worlds of Narnia, Harry Potter and A Series of Unfortunate Events. Taking this passion for stories, she received a degree from Rutgers University in Journalism & Media. Besides writing, she likes long walks on the beach, spending time with her family (and her cat, Sansa), and baking the perfect loaf of bread.
During her internship with Adoption Choices, she is looking forward to sharing vital information about adoption to families making important choices.