What are my Teenage Pregnancy Options in New York?

If you have found this page, you are likely a teenager, pregnant, and you are considering adoption. We know you are probably feeling scared and overwhelmed. Even though it feels like your world is falling down around you, you have options! Having an unplanned pregnancy means that you will have to decide whether to parent, plan an adoption for your baby, or you may even be considering an abortion. Adoption Choices of New York is a full-service adoption center that helps pregnant teens like you who are considering adoption. We will help you make the best decision for you, answer questions, and provide information no matter what you decide. If and when you’re ready to choose adoption, we will help you create an adoption plan, pick the adoptive family, choose the level of openness you want with the adoptive family and your child, build a hospital birth plan, and provide assistance and support throughout your pregnancy and after the adoption is final.

Discovering you are pregnant when you are not ready to be a mother can come as a shock that can overwhelm you with feelings of dread, regret, and isolation. As reality sets in, you need a space where you can process your feelings. You need a space where you can explore all your options and map out a plan of action. You need a space that is free of judgment and where you can find support at all times. At Adoption Choices of New York, we can provide all of these things and more at no cost to you. All you need to do is reach out to us to get the help you need.

Teen Pregnancy and Abortion

Perhaps the “go to” choices for an unplanned teen pregnancy may be the most difficult one. Often the guilt a young woman has lives on for many many years. Again, an option that is your choice, realize that there are laws restricting teens access to abortion — and depending how far along you are in your pregnancy, it might no longer be an option. Our compassionate staff will provide you with information — the realities of choosing abortion vs. the realities of parenting and/or choosing adoption. Only you can make the best decision for yourself and your unborn baby. No one should pressure you into making a decision about your pregnancy, no matter what. 

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Why is Adoption a Good Choice for Teenage Pregnancy?

If you are a pregnant teenager who has stumbled upon this post and is considering the idea of adoption, know that our agency, Adoption Choices of NewYork, will help you understand how your beautiful choice of adoption may be a good option for you and your baby. Adoption might allow your child a chance at a better life and great opportunities than you may be able to provide at this time in your life, and that’s okay! Placing your child up for adoption as a teen mother might enable you to finish certain life goals, like graduate high school, attend college if you wish in the future, and become a parent later in life if you want. 

Choosing adoption as a pregnant teenager may seem scary but know, that you will have the support of your parents or a trusted adult, like your adoption caseworker. In addition, adoption provides you with many positive experiences, like sharing your story, still knowing and forming a close bond with your child, and many other positive benefits, along the way. No matter what road in life you choose, your choice of adoption is one of selflessness, sacrifice, and love.

How do I tell my parents that I’m pregnant?

Dealing with an unplanned pregnancy at any age can be scary. Being a teenager still living under your parent’s roof adds a new level of challenge to the game. Telling your parents that you’re pregnant is one of those things that every girl fears the most. You hope you never have to have that conversation, but sometimes, life happens. Although the number of teenage pregnancies in the U.S. has decreased in the last decade or so, the American sexual education system isn’t perfect, and accidents happen. If you’re not ready to tell your parents, our professional and compassionate staff at Adoption Choices of New York are here for you 24/7. Although we are an adoption agency, we will never pressure you into choosing adoption. We offer 100% confidentiality and never pressure you, judge your choices, nor discriminate. We’ll help you understand all of your options and some helpful ways to approach breaking the news to your parents. An unplanned pregnancy as a teenager is scary, but we promise it’ll all work out, and you don’t have to do it alone. 

If you’re too scared to tell your parents, practice telling someone else, you trust first. Writing a letter, practicing what you’ll say in the mirror, and having someone supportive with you can also help. Even if you’re close with your parents and usually talk to them about everything, revealing an unplanned pregnancy can feel like a whole different ball game. It’s okay to be scared, and it’s okay to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. Just remember, you are not alone. Help and support is just one call or text away at Call 24/7: 800-505-8592 | 518-478-8420 

How do I tell the baby’s father that I’m pregnant?

When you first learned you were pregnant, you probably felt shocked, scared, and overwhelmed. After some time processing your own emotions and reactions, one of your biggest concerns might be telling the baby’s father. There is no doubt that will be a hard conversation – especially as a teen; these three tips can help this conversation go more smoothly. 

1. Pick the right time and place. Set aside the time to have a full conversation, in a private setting, in person. If you’re scared about his reaction, having a trusted close friend (or parent), there might help. Avoid telling him in public, by text or by social media.
2. Be honest and direct. Hints or subtlety do not work well for important conversations like this.
3. Give him time and space. Remember how hard this information was when you first learned it. It will likely take him some time to work through this huge news as well.
   

Pregnancy is an adult situation that requires an adult response. That can be very challenging if you aren’t an adult yet! But telling the baby’s father & doing it in a mature way gives you the best chance for a positive outcome.