Studies have shown that children raised by single parents do just as well as children in two-parent households, which is reassuring for individuals who are looking to adopt a child as a single parent. When you decide the time is right to have a child, there’s no need to wait. There are many children out there who need a loving home.
The adoption process for a single parent is basically the same as it is for a couple, which goes something like this:
- Choose an adoption agency.
- Complete the home study and provide all paperwork required, including medical history, background check, and more.
- Get matched with a biological family.
- The child is placed in your home.
- Complete the post-placement supervision process.
- Finalize the adoption.
However, matching a single parent with a biological family may take a little longer than matching a couple. During the matching process, the birth mother reads adoptive family profiles and chooses the family she wants for her child. At that point, the adoptive parent learns a little about the birth mother and may agree to the match. From your initial contact with the agency to the finalization of the adoption, the entire process can take a several months. Keep in mind that the finalization process alone can take quite a while, and during that time the child would be at home with you.
Since many birth mothers may have long expected their child to go to a two-parent family, it could take longer for a single parent to find a match. At Adoption Choices of New York, we work with many single adoptive parents every year and that extra time spent waiting is always well worth it when you do find the right birth family and get to take your baby home.
The best thing to do as a single parent is to carefully prepare your adoptive family profile to set yourself apart and provide an answer or solution in advance to some of the questions or concerns the birth mother might have about a single parent household. These might include:
Who Will Care for the Child While You Are at Work?
If applicable, you could point out any extra flexibility you have at your job; for example, the ability to set your own hours or to leave early to attend a school event. Include your plan for the weeks immediately after you bring your baby home – can you take leave from work? Do you have friends and family to help?
What is Your Extended Family Like?
Do you live near grandparents or aunts, uncles, and cousins? Do they play a large role in your life? If you have no close biological family, consider your friends and community and the role they will play in you and your child’s life.
What opportunities Will You Offer the Child?
Maybe you live in a top-notch school district, or you intend to send the child to a private school. Talk about your traditions, travels, and hobbies, highlighting the skills and values you will share with your child.
What Makes You, You?
Be yourself in your profile. Don’t worry too much about “impressing” the birth mothers. There is a child out there for you, and there is a birth mother who is excited about the life you will be able to offer her child.
There is no typical adoptive family. No matter your marital status, age, race, sex, income level, or geographical location, you have the opportunity to create your family through the shared gift of adoption. If you are a single parent looking to adopt a child, we invite you to reach out to Adoption Choices of New York. We can answer any further questions you might have about single parent adoption.