Should I Give My Baby Up for Adoption?
Life has many surprises in store for all of us and things don’t always go as expected. One of the most surprising things can be an unexpected pregnancy. In some circumstances, this can fit into people’s life plans perfectly, but many pregnant women feel unsure about raising a baby. Sometimes, taking on the responsibility of caring for a child for the rest of their life is something that isn’t a viable option, and that is perfectly valid.
Consider Your Adoption Options
When you ask yourself the question, “Should I give my baby up for adoption?,” it is important to make sure you understand that you have options. Not only do you have the power to decide how you want to proceed with your pregnancy and/or whether you want to raise a baby, but you also have options on what your specific adoption would look like if you want to go that route. For example, you could have an open adoption where you have more influence in your adoption process — such as picking which family your child will go to — or you could have a closed adoption where your identity will be kept completely private.
Every woman has the right to decide what she wants her future to look like, and that includes when and if she ever wants children. So don’t forget to consider the option that is best for you, and if adoption is best, we are here to support you.
Should I Give My Baby Up for Adoption?
There are several things to consider when you decide whether to place your baby up for adoption, and many questions you should try to answer before you make this choice. Every pregnant woman’s experience is different and, in the end, only you can decide what will work best for you.
- Do I have the Resources Necessary to Raise a Child?
When you decide to raise a baby, you will have to dedicate a lot of your resources to make sure they are taken care of. Children are expensive, especially infants, and you may not be in the place where you can take on such a heavy financial burden. If you do not feel like you are at a point in your life where this is feasible, it is perfectly okay to decide to put your child up for adoption and give them a home with a family who is prepared to raise a baby.
- Do I have People in My Life to Support Me?
You may have heard the saying, “It takes a village to raise a child” in the past, and it is certainly true. If you have to work to support yourself and have no way of committing to childcare as your full time job, you will need to be able to rely on someone to watch your baby while you are at work, or figure out a way to enroll them in a daycare.
Sometimes, without the proper support, raising a child can be extremely difficult. If you are a single woman, or if you do not have the necessary support system to help you with taking care of a baby, adoption may be an option to consider.
- Will I be Okay with Another Family Raising My Child?
When you give your child up for adoption, you are giving an adoptive family the ability to grow their family and raise your child as their own. This is a beautiful thing and mutually beneficial in many scenarios, but sometimes you might not be sure if that is a decision you want to make. If you feel you would be happier if you raise your baby yourself, adoption may not be the best option.
A good way to help answer this question is to consider the aftermath of this choice. If you think it would be more beneficial to your future and emotional wellbeing to give your child up for adoption, then that is the path you should take. However, if you feel it will be more personally beneficial to you to raise your child and that the pros will outweigh the cons, then you should do what you feel is best.
- Am I Prepared to Raise a Child for the Rest of My Life?
Not only are children a large financial responsibility, but they also require a lot of time and dedication. When you decide to raise a baby, you are making a commitment to provide emotional and physical support to the child until they reach adulthood, which is a big commitment. If you feel like raising a child right now will prevent you from participating in life events that are important to you — such as finishing your education, moving up in your career, or raising a family on your own timetable — then adoption may be the best choice for you.
Should I Give My Baby up for Adoption?
Whether you choose to give your child up for adoption or not, it is important to consider what is best for you in the end. Only you have the power to make a decision on what is best for you. And please understand that you are not giving up. You are giving life!
Adoption Choices of New York is here to support you if you decide to go down the adoption route. We believe that supporting women is important, and we have resources that help you with emotional and financial support during your adoption journey.
About the Author: Alexandra Georgiton is a fourth-year student at the University of Cincinnati studying Rhetoric and Professional Writing, and is receiving certification in Copyediting and Publishing. She has been passionate about the English language for her entire life, and reading and writing have always been her favorite hobbies. She enjoys professional writing and editing because she loves to use her talent and love of writing to make a difference in the world.