The blessing of a child can come at an undesirable time. This is not your fault. Society might pressure you into keeping the baby because that’s the “right thing to do” as a mother. Yet, society doesn’t understand the consequences of that choice. Especially when you, as the mother, are certain that it is not the right time.
You’re nervous, anxious, and definitely confused as to what you should do next. Placing your baby for adoption might be an option you have in mind. Having that thought does not make you a terrible person. Rather, it shows that you are responsible and care deeply about the future of your child.
The path to placing your baby for adoption can be bumpy. You’ll have many questions along the way. Here at Adoption Choices of New York, we strive to make this journey as easy as possible for you and your baby to live the prosperous lives you both deserve. The Q&A below should help you understand the basics of what you need to know about adoption.
Q: When should I Decide to Start the Adoption Process?
A: There is no time limit on when you should start the adoption paperwork; however, it will bring you more peace of mind to start it as soon as you have made a decision regarding your baby’s future. It will also give you enough time to evaluate potential adoptive families and for them to prepare for the arrival of their new baby. The first step after you’ve made your decision would be to reach out to an adoption expert at Adoption Choices of New York. Check out our website and brochure for more information on how to get started.
Q: What is the Difference between Open and Closed Adoption?
A: After deciding to choose adoption, you should understand the different types: open, semi-open, and closed. The basic difference between the three is the level of involvement and the relationship you will have with the adoptive family and your baby once the adoption paperwork begins and has been completed.
The type of adoption chosen is entirely up to the birth parents and the adoptive parents to decide. There is no right or wrong answer. Each option has its own benefits and drawbacks. Click on the links above to read more about them before making your decision.
Q: Can I Place my Baby after Birth?
A: Yes, you can. There is no set time limit for when you need to place your baby. However, it would be beneficial to both you and your baby for you to decide sooner rather than later. It will give your adoption expert time to notify qualified adoptive parents. In many cases, they will need to make travel arrangements to pick up their child. Depending on the type of adoption you choose, you might also want to get to know the adoptive parents to understand their living style.
It will also alleviate any stress you have about not being able to take care of the baby once the baby is born. When you have made your decision, don’t forget to reach out to an adoption expert at Adoption Choices of New York.
Q: Do I get to Choose the Adoptive Family?
A: Yes, you have the power to approve the adoptive parents. Even if you are placing your baby for adoption, you are still a mother who wants the best for her child. Thus, it’s important that you share your input for the environment you want your baby to grow up in. It could be that you want the family to be different from your own, or you want them to share some similarities so that your child is never really far from you.
Every prospective family will make a mini-scrap or profile book that shares a little bit about their lifestyle. Some potential elements for you to consider might be:
- Education level
- Financial stability
- Marital status
- Other children or pets in the house
It might also be worthwhile for you to consider why they are choosing to adopt, how will they raise the baby, and what their hopes are for the future of the baby. You will also have a chance to meet them before you make any final decision.
Q: How much will the Adoption Process Cost me?
A: In most circumstances, you will not need to pay out of pocket for any adoption-related fees. This includes hospital visits and transportation to meet with us or attend medical appointments. It is also likely that you will receive financial support with expenses such as: utilities, food, rent, maternity clothes and phone bill. Overall, the amount of support approved will depend on your financial situation and the state you live in.
For pregnancy-related fees, like medical bills, the adoptive family will pay that expense if it has not been covered by your private insurance.
Placing Your Baby for Adoption
The decision to choose adoption is incredibly courageous. There are so many rules and regulations when it comes to placing your baby for adoption that you might feel overwhelmed. Take a deep breath and relax your shoulders. Your adoption experts at Adoption Choices of New York will answer any and all questions you have about the adoption process, big or small. Don’t hesitate to give us a call or visit our website if you want us to contact you instead.
Adoption Choices of New York
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Lisa Truong is an undergraduate journalism major at the University of Denver. She is minoring in writing and Chemistry. She has been commended by professors for her news stories as well as creative writing.
During her freshman year, her essay “See Ya on the Other Side” was displayed at a writing exhibition sponsored by the University of Denver. That essay later went on to be published in Many Voices One DU, a book also sponsored by the university.
Lisa frequently volunteers to be a leader at the Daniels School of Business for their quarterly Ethics Boot Camp where students learn about the importance of character in business. In her free time, Lisa enjoys watching animated movies with her mother, listening to music, going for bike rides, and eating breakfast food.
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Adoption Choices of Colorado Team. “What Is an Open Adoption?” Adoption Choices of Colorado, October 19, 2017. https://www.adoptionchoices.org/what-is-an-open-adoption/.
American Adoptions, Inc. “‘What Does Adoption Mean to a Child?”.” American Adoptions – Putting Baby Up for Adoption After Birth – Is it Possible? Accessed November 8, 2019. https://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/adoption_is_always_an_option.