An unplanned pregnancy tends to put life into a different perspective. One that all too often leaves you feeling confused or overwhelmed. Pressure to terminate and other negative remarks pour in from those who know and love you. What do you do?
6. Not Ready to be a Parent
Parenthood is not meant for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It takes a very special kind of person to take on all the responsibility of raising a child and overseeing their well-being. If you don’t feel like becoming a parent is your future, or you aren’t ready to be a parent just yet, that’s ok. There are many other hopeful individuals and couples who are aching to give your child all the love and care they have to offer.
5. Can’t Provide for the Child’s Needs
With the cost of living continuing to rise, not being able to provide for another child’s needs is a big part of reality for many birth parents. Whether this means you already have children and cannot afford the extra mouth to feed, or that you cannot support a child at all — financially, physically or emotionally. For other birth parents, concerns that they are either too young or too old to have a baby are ever-present and reasons an unplanned pregnancy can cause stress and anxiety. Still others may worry they won’t be able to support a child with special needs.
If you fit into any or all of those categories, choosing to place your baby for adoption is an incredible and viable option. You will be able to look through prospective adoptive parents’ profile books and have the assistance of our adoption professionals to help you find the best fit for you, the adoptive family, and your child.
4. Friend or Family Member previously Adopted
The idea surrounding adoption can be scary if it’s a new concept to you. Particularly if it has never been spoken about or isn’t seen favorably in your circle of family and friends. However, if one of your friends or family members has previously adopted this can help in your own decision-making process. You can lean on them for guidance, ask about the pros and cons of their experience, and know that they will support you no matter what you choose.
3. Adopted Member of Your Family
Were you adopted as a baby? Believe or not, this can help guide you when you are deciding whether or not to place your baby for adoption. If you know that it’s not the right time for you to be a parent, and you have many fond memories of growing up as an adoptee, you will feel comfortable and more secure choosing the same for your child.
2. Familiar with the Benefits of Adoption
Along those same lines, being familiar with the topic of adoption is helpful in another way. You understand the benefits of adoption. That it’s a wonderful way to grow a family. That both you and your baby will be taken care of and that your best interests will be kept at heart.
Throughout the adoption process, you have a say in what the future holds for your child. You get to select the adoptive family and the level of openness you all will share. Having this knowledge is an incredible comfort and wonderful resource to have when deciding to place your baby for adoption.
1. Want Baby to have a Better Life
Another way a birth mother may phrase this is that she wants her child to have the life she was never able to have. In other words, she chooses to place her baby for adoption so that the child can grow up in a family that can offer a more empowering and well-rounded experience. One that can ensure a roof over the child’s head, financial stability, medical care, educational opportunities and certain values that she feels are important.
Do you feel this way as well? What do you feel is most important in life? What opportunities do you hope your child will have?
Reasons to Place Your Baby for Adoption
Adoption is not giving up. Remember that. Write it on a sticky-note and tape it to your bathroom mirror. Read it out loud to yourself everyday. It isn’t. Choosing to place your baby for adoption also doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Quite the contrary.
It makes you brave. Selfless. It means that you love your child enough to choose life, bring him or her into the world, and give them their best chance. To grow in a safe, loving and nurturing environment. To become a healthy, confident and independent adult. To continue to love them always — even if that means from a distance.
Adoption Choices of New York
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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