New York Same-Sex Adoption Pros and Cons

Creating families is no longer centered around what was considered ‘traditional.’ Adoption is a wonderful way to give a family a child they’ve always wanted while providing a loving home for your baby. Adoption in New York state allows same-sex adoptions without any extra hoops or laws. If you have any questions about the adoption process as a whole, contact us at Adoption Choices of New York. We have a qualified, friendly staff with years of experience here to help you with any questions or concerns revolving around your adoption journey. Sometimes, just having someone listen during a stressful time can help you sort through all the emotions of an unplanned pregnancy or unwanted pregnancy. 

Finding the right family to adopt your baby is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your adoption journey. Every pregnant woman envisions their child’s life differently. Matching with an adoptive family can take time, depending on what specifications you want for your child. Expectant women looking into adopting can choose from heterosexual families or same-sex families. As with every decision, there are pros and cons involving same-sex adoption. It is important for you to be aware of what comes along with this decision. Unfortunately, there can be a difference in experience when a child is placed with a same-sex couple. 

The Pros of Same-Sex Adoption

• A Loving Family

Families looking to adopt want a child of their own to love and raise. Same-sex couples offer deep, intense, and real love for their adopted child in the same way heterosexual couples do. Getting to know potential adoptive families will allow you to explore and get to know them on a personal level before a decision is made. You can ask questions about their parenting style and match it up to what you envision for your child after placement. 

• Diversity at an Early Age

The world is a beautifully diverse place, but not all children are able to experience it at an early age. Teaching diversity and acceptance at a young age is beneficial and an important lesson in basic human kindness. Children are curious by habit, and when they grow older and start to notice other families, they will ask. This goes for skin color and ethnicity too. Same-sex couples can teach your child from an early age about the different types of families and frame it positively instead of them learning from an outside source that may not be so kind. 

• Confidence

Same-sex couples face adversity for existing. Their strength and self-confidence will more than likely be passed down to your child in the way they are raised. Having to stand up for their love, unlike most heterosexual couples, will instill a sense of pride in your child as they get older. Your child will be more likely to stand up for injustice and for themselves at an earlier age. 

Cons of Same-Sex Adoption

• Discrimination

Children of same-sex couples are often targeted by children who have grown up in a household that teaches against same-sex relationships. This can be incredibly disheartening and tiring for young children who do not understand why someone would make fun of them for their family. As they age, it may not change, and your child may be faced with discrimination for a large portion of their life in school. 

• Struggling to Connect to Peers

Forming relationships and friendships, especially in childhood and teen years, is easier with multiple things in common. Children who are not around other kids their age that have same-sex parents may find it hard to connect and feel different from their peers. Depending on the reaction of their peers, this can lead to further isolation or social difficulties. 

LGBTQ+ Adoption Has The Good and The Bad

Adoption agencies in New York are trained to help with these types of questions. Choosing the adoptive family can be tough, but ultimately, you are choosing the family to love and raise your child. There are pros and cons of heterosexual couples, but that generally centers around parenting style. Ultimately, it is your choice to exclude or include same-sex couples in your search for adoptive parents. 

The NYC adoption process isn’t complicated, but there are a lot of steps involved. Are you an expectant woman considering adoption? Do you want to know more about New York same-sex adoption pros and cons or talk to a birth mother who has placed with a same-sex couple? Contact us at Adoption Choices of New York for more information on adoption, the process, and anything else you want to know. 

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