Choosing a baby name can be a complicated process. It’s not uncommon for young women to have a prepared list of potential names that they began in childhood. One they’ve been slowly adding to or deleting from over the years. Fantasizing about. Perhaps even softly whispering when pairing it with middle name options. Names have significance and special meaning, which can evoke strong emotions and add further complexity. So, actually selecting a baby name can be as stressful as it is exhilarating.

On the flip side, you may be at a loss as to what to name your child. You may be starved for inspiration, and needing extra help. We’ve got you covered. Here are some aspects to consider when deciding on the best baby name.

Family Tradition

Many adoptive parents decide a baby name based off family traditions. If the generations before you have used the first name of a parent, grandparent or great-grandparent as the middle name of their first son or daughter, you may be expected to continue on that legacy. Or, all girl names have historically begun with one letter and the boys with another, following suit with that. Along those same lines, your partner’s or spouse’s family traditions should be taken into consideration, too.

Using this structure when thinking up baby names can be complicated. So, it’s important to carefully consider what traditions you want to have and not have before you start a family of your own. This will greatly diminish the amount of stress and pressure during the naming process. If you decide that continuing past family naming conventions is important to you, make sure that you both are on the same page about what that means and which names are the most significant to carry on.

Friends or Loved Ones

Everyone we meet touches our lives in a unique way. Both in and outside our families. Thus, it’s not common to hear stories of children named about people who influenced their parents in a specific way. For instance, the first friend they announced their pregnancy or adoption to. The friend who was there for them no matter what.

Finding a baby name based off friends is a beautiful way to honor those individuals.

Popular Baby Names

Sociologists and analysts have studied the ebb and flow of trending baby names for decades. Names speak volumes about when and where you live, what the culture and political climate is like, etc. Each year, this is becoming more and more apparent. So, if you’re interested in choosing a baby name that will pinpoints a time in history, pay attention to which boy and girl names are popular or currently trending.

Every year, the Internet explodes with multiple resources containing both the best and worst names of the season. Some of the top baby names of 2018, for instance, were: Olivia, Liam, Emma and Noah. The hottest trends of 2018 included: online games, TV shows, food and mindfulness. If you’re looking for something more unique, though, be sure to consult the latest baby name list and double check if your choice appears. Have a second or third option ready to go just in case.

Particular Spellings

It’s happened to the best of us. Our name has been mispronounced, misspelled or both. At the same time. In more casual occasions, it’s easy to laugh off and not let it bother us. Especially if you have a unique name that has an equally different spelling. But, when it becomes a pattern, it can indicate an underlying issue. Certain spellings of names may not work as well as others, despite how cool they may appear on paper. This goes beyond adding an extra “a” or “e” to an otherwise traditional spelling.

Think about it this way. How would you feel if your parents gave you a name that was never said or spelled correctly? Would you shrug and smile, or would it get under your skin and upset you? Now imagine you as your child. Unique names with particular spellings are neat to look at, but be sure to pick something that’s going to be easy to remember and say to save your child any potential for grief or embarrassment.

Help with Baby Names

There are many variables that go into naming your child. Moments of self-doubt, second-guessing and anxiety are sure to pop up multiple times during the process. But, while you are searching, remember this: no name is perfect. Even if it’s the most common baby name known with the simplest spelling. That said, choose a name that you feel most confident about. The one that you feel fits your child. After all, having your child’s best interest at heart is what matters the most.

Adoption Choices of New York

For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.

Support Adoption Choices

CrowdriseAdoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.

However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.

About the Author

Rachel RobertsonRachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.

In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.

When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.




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