1. Reasons to Place Your Baby for Adoption
An unplanned pregnancy tends to put life into a different perspective. One that all too often leaves you feeling confused or overwhelmed. Pressure to terminate and other negative remarks pour in from those who know and love you. What do you do?
Parenthood is not meant for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It takes a very special kind of person to take on all the responsibility of raising a child and overseeing their well-being. If you don’t feel like becoming a parent is your future, or you aren’t ready to be a parent just yet, that’s ok. There are many other hopeful individuals and couples who are aching to give your child all the love and care they have to offer.
Adoption is an extremely personal decision. Adoption Choices of New York is happy to provide any and all information and educational resources we can; but, at the end of the day, we understand that you may need some time to think everything over. We will never force you into something you don’t want to do. That’s not how we do things. However, we can promise to walk with you each step of the way if you decide that placing your baby for adoption is the right choice for you.
2. How You Know Placing Your Baby for Adoption is the Right Choice
You may be wondering: how do I know without a shadow of a doubt that placing my baby for adoption is the right choice? Not just in your head, but in your heart, too. There is no easy answer for this, just as there’s no right or wrong, because everyone will have a different response. Adoption is a personal choice. No two adoption stories are alike. So, ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what is best for your life and that of your baby’s. Other birth mothers have known they were making the right choice because they wanted to:
- take control of her situation and her baby’s future
- continue to pursue her own goals and build a better life for herself before parenthood
- give her baby the opportunity to have his or her best chance at life through choosing a family that could provide everything she couldn’t
- ensure that her baby grew up happy, safe and healthy in a loving home
- put the best interests of her baby’s above her own
If any of these responses resonate with you, then there’s your answer. That’s how you know for sure that adoption is the right choice.
3. “Giving Up” vs. “Placing” a Baby for Adoption
Is there a difference? Yes, and a very important one. This is perhaps one of the easiest and biggest mistakes that many make unknowingly when referring to adoption. However, it’s essential that we are careful what words we choose, because they have specific meanings.
Placing a baby for adoption takes a tremendous amount of strength and courage. It is an example of a heartfelt decision and loving sacrifice made by the birth mother, who willingly chooses to place her child with an adoptive family who can give the child their best chance at life.
Giving up, on the other hand, holds a negative connotation. It creates the harmful and damaging image that the child is unwanted by their birth parents, which isn’t true. In reality, the birth parents made the conscious decision to place the child for adoption because it was best for the child and the adoptive family absolutely wanted the child.
4. Choosing Adoption is NOT “Giving Up”
Adoption is NOT giving up. Remember that. Write it on a sticky-note and tape it to your bathroom mirror. Read it out loud to yourself every day. It isn’t. Choosing to place your baby for adoption also doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Quite the contrary.
It makes you brave. Selfless. It means that you love your child enough to choose life, bring him or her into the world, and give them their best chance. To grow in a safe, loving and nurturing environment. To become a healthy, confident and independent adult. To continue to love them always — even if that means from a distance.
5. Are there Requirements for Placing Baby for Adoption?
No. There are no specific requirements. Anyone can place a baby for adoption, as long as they feel adoption is the right choice for both themselves and their child. If you are struggling with this, please see refer to our information under “how do you know placing your baby for adoption is the right choice.”
Every birth mother and birth parent will be different when it comes to whether or not to choose adoption. No two adoption journeys are alike. If you have any questions or concerns regarding your specific life circumstances, or feel ready to begin your adoption journey as birth parents, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
6. Benefits of “Placing Baby” for Adoption
An unplanned pregnancy can make life complicated and bring everything to a grinding halt. It can feel overwhelming and confusing for women who are not ready to build a family. Adoption offers a wonderful and loving solution to this.
Through choosing adoption, a birth mother is able to continue building her career, finish her education or complete more life goals before parenthood. It also allows her more time to become financially stable for when she is ready to grow her family. Another benefit to adoption is that birth mothers are allowed to remain an integral part of their child’s life through an open adoption agreement with the adoptive parents.
7. Choosing Adoption when Faced with Difficult Life Circumstances
Homelessness. Incarnation. Addiction or recovery. Having no US Citizenship. Deployment. Life has countless curve balls it throws at us, making it impossible to build a family the way we want. Choosing adoption for your child can bring peace and comfort into these trying times.
Adoption Choices of New York understands the stress and anxiety an unplanned pregnancy can cause, and we want to help. Please know that adoption is always an option for you, regardless of what you’re facing in life. Our trained and compassionate adoption professionals are ready and willing to offer assistance in any way we can. Over the past seventeen years, we have helped many individuals and couples make adoption plans and complete their families through the miracle of adoption. As a leader in the adoption community, we are genuinely committed to providing a sensitive, comprehensive and supportive experience for all parties involved in the adoption journey. We are dedicated to ensuring that your adoption is processed in a professional, competent and caring manner and would be delighted to answer your questions.
8. Is There an Age Limit for Placing a Baby for Adoption?
Is there such thing as being “too old” or “too young” to place a baby for adoption? No. Whether you are in your teenage years or older, there is no cut-off age. Adoptions of New York serves all birth mothers and birth parents who want to choose adoption for their child.
To us, age is just a number. What is most important is finding a loving home for your child, and helping you through the adoption journey. It doesn’t matter if you are placing with us for the first time or seventh time, or you already have children or not, you are always welcome at our agency.