FAQs Regarding an Adoption Plan in New York
When first deciding whether or not adoption is the right choice for you, there can be many uncertainties and questions you face. Challenges of not knowing what to expect — especially if you are new to the adoption world. Your questions may include: Where do I start? Where do I go? Who do I talk to? This can make things overwhelming in the beginning
But don’t worry. You’ve come to the right place. All of your anxieties are natural. Other birth mothers, just like you, have asked the same and others. Adoption Choices of New York is here to provide the most frequently asked questions (FAQs) regarding an adoption plan in New York..
Is Adoption Right for Me?
This can sometimes be the hardest of the questions you may face. Adoption is a huge decision that not only affects your life, but your child’s as well. After all, you are making decisions that will determine both of your futures. So, it can be easy for doubt or guilt to slip in. The most important thing to remember to do is to be honest with yourself.
Ask if you are ready for parenthood. Ask if you can provide every need and desire for your baby. If the answer is no, adoption gives him or her that chance to have that and grow up happy. Adoption also allows you to gain peace of mind, knowing you made the right choice and that your child will be surrounded by love.
Will I Choose the Adoptive Family?
Yes! You are always in control of your adoption plan. Our adoption agency in New York will work with you every step of the way to help you find the best adoptive family. Your adoption caseworker will ask you what kind of family you want for your child, and what preferences you may have. They will use this information to gather adoptive parent profiles that align with these wants.
Once you are given the adoptive parent profiles, you can have all the time you need to review them and choose who you believe is the right fit for you and your baby. Also, depending on the type of adoption you choose,you may have the option to meet them. This way, you can build a relationship with them, ask questions or voice concerns you may still be having.
I Just Gave Birth. Is Adoption Still an Option?
Definitely one of the most FAQs regarding an adoption plan in New York. Absolutely! It doesn’t matter if you are in labor or raising your newborn at home. You can still move forward and create an adoption plan that best fits you. Nothing you say or do fully commits you to the adoption plan unless you give the green light.
No matter what — it is never too late to choose adoption!
What Happens after the Adoption?
This greatly varies from birth mother to birth mother. It also depends on what type of adoption you chose. For some birth mothers, you may want to go back to “normal life.” Back to your safe zone where you felt you had control over the things in your life. Having a baby and experiencing an unplanned pregnancy can really upend your daily routine.
On the other hand, you may want to be involved in your birth child’s life after the adoption has been finalized. To receive updates about how he or she, and the adoptive parents, are doing. Perhaps you want to explore the potential of in person or virtual visits throughout the year.
Both options are available and valid. It all depends on what you want out of your adoption journey.
What Type of Adoption is Right for Me?
This is a loaded question, and a very personal one. Your adoption caseworker can give you information and resources to help you. They can describe the types of adoption that are available, and tell you the pros and cons of each. But, the final decision of what feels right to you is something only you can answer. You know what’s best for you and your baby.
There are three types of adoption to choose from: open, semi-open and closed. As aforementioned, each one comes with their own benefits and drawbacks. It all comes down to how much involvement and openness you want in your adoption plan post placement.
At Adoption Choices of New York, we encourage all our birth mothers to look into open adoption. We believe this option holds everyone’s best interests in mind. However, we also understand that every birth mother is different — as is her situation. That’s why there are multiple options, to ensure that each and every birth mother creates an adoption plan that fits with her specific wants and needs.
What Other Questions do You have Regarding an Adoption Plan?
We know the struggles, the burdens, and the tears birth mothers have shed when trying to decide if adoption is the best choice for them. It’s not an easy choice to make, and we are here to help you in whatever way we can.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and want to learn more about how to create an adoption plan in New York, don’t hesitate to reach out. Remember that if you aren’t ready to be a parent, you can place your baby for adoption. You can help a loving and deserving adoptive parents grow their family through the gift of your child. That is something to take pride in, not one to be ashamed of.
Did any of the questions above resonate with you? Do you have any other questions regarding an adoption plan that you didn’t see on the list? Let us know!
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