Domestic Violence & Adoption in New York

By Kelly Paczkowski

Domestic violence can, unfortunately, happen to anyone. It might be hard, at first, to recognize that you are a victim of domestic violence. However, there are signs that you might be in this type of situation.

  • Physically hurt you
  • Blame you for things out of your or their control
  • Overbearing and do not trust you to be alone
  • Shout and yell
  • Make you nervous when they are around

These are some of the signs that you might be in a relationship with an abusive partner. In a healthy relationship, there is mutual trust and respect. You would be able to talk to your partner about anything without fear of a physical altercation.  

If you find yourself in any of the above situations, you may be in a violent domestic relationship. Add an unexpected pregnancy into the mix, and it can add additional complications and concerns.  

If you feel you are a domestic violence victim, please call the New York State Domestic and Sexual Violence at 1-800-942-6906 or the  National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. They can provide information and support to victims and survivors of domestic violence.  

If you are in immediate danger, dial 911

As a birth mother who is in a domestic violent relationship, you may have concerns that your unborn baby might become a witness to domestic violence or even become a victim themselves.

Choosing Adoption in New York

If you are a birth mother in the middle of a domestic violent relationship, you may want to prevent your child from living in the chaos of a domestic violent home. Adoption can be a way for your child to have security and is raised in a loving and caring environment.  

While you plan for your baby, do not forget about being safe yourself. You are in need of a secure environment as well. You may need assistance to get out of the situation that you are in as well. Speaking with an adoption specialist at an agency in New York can help you to find support and assistance in leaving a violent situation.  

Adoption Agencies NYC

Adoption Choices of New York is a Not for Profit licensed adoption agency in New York. We assist birth mothers in finding a loving and caring home for your baby. We can help you find support and assistance if you find yourself in the circumstances involving domestic violence. If you are pregnant and looking for answers about adoption or leaving a domestic violent relationship, please reach out to us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 800-505-8592 or email us here.

Putting Baby Up for Adoption

Once you have decided on choosing adoption for your baby, your adoption specialist will walk you through the process and provide support to you. We will be able to help you in choosing from family profiles and then find support services that you may need.  

If my partner is domestically abusive, do they have to consent to the adoption?

There is not one straightforward answer to this. Every situation is unique, and therefore there is not a one size fits all answer. Every state has its own laws regarding adoption. Your partner might still have parental rights. Due to the situation, they may have to go before a judge to get these rights terminated. If you are upfront with your adoption specialist, they will be able to provide guidance in these types of situations. They have the experience and are dedicated to helping birth mothers with the adoption process. 

If you would like to learn more about the adoption process and how to get out of a domestic violence relationship, contact Adoption Choices of New York today. We understand the process and have experience in dealing with these kinds of situations. Call us anytime at  800-505-8592 or email us here.  

Domestic Violence is Not Your Fault

Living with a partner who is violent can be scary and stressful. You may feel you are always walking on eggshells and doing anything so as not to upset your partner. However, no matter what your partner might do, it is NO excuse to be emotionally or physically violent toward someone else, and it is not your fault. It is best that you get out of the situation before it becomes worse. You deserve to feel safe for yourself and your baby. 

If you are in immediate danger of violence – call 911 right away. 

If you need help in leaving a dangerous situation, the numbers for reporting domestic violence or abuse are as follows.  

 New York State Domestic and Sexual Violence  1-800-942-6906

 National Domestic Violence Hotline  1-800-799-7233.


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