Unplanned pregnancy. A very frightening and stressful discovery. So much to think about. To consider. What is the best choice – parenting, termination or adoption? It’s hard to function under the extreme pressure. Life suddenly seems out of control and overwhelming. But, if you choose adoption for you and your baby, there’s good news! Creating your adoption plan is something you have complete control over.
Adoption Choices of New York, a full service and nonprofit adoption agency, will happily assist you in any way possible. We promise an empowering and positive experience, and that you will be treated with the utmost respect. Our qualified and highly-trained staff is ready to address any questions or concerns you have and help you get started on your adoption journey.
Here are our best practices for customizing your adoption plan into something that will last a lifetime.
1. Start with Research
As with so many other things, you’ll want to do your research before getting too deep into creating your adoption plan. Especially as you are keeping your baby’s best interests at heart. It’s very important to select an adoption agency and professional who truly cares for your well-being and that of your baby’s.
Don’t forget to make notes as you search, so you can keep track of the agencies and professionals who stand out to you. Write down their web addresses, phone numbers and any other contact info listed for when you’re ready to make a final choice.
One of the benefits of Adoption Choices of New York is that we have adoption professionals located all over New York State. You can meet with us in person, we can accompany you to your appointments and be at the hospital for delivery. Out-of-state agencies often can’t offer that.
2. Decide What You Want in an Adoptive Family
What kind of family are you hoping your baby will have? Are there any particular values, religions or lifestyles you want him or her to grow up in? Do you prefer a family with pets? Other children? First-time parents? Same-sex couples? Single parent?
With all of these questions – as well as others – you’ll want them answered as you move forward in creating your adoption plan. Once you’ve decided on which adoption agency you want to work with, you will be assigned an adoption professional who can help you determine your requirements and wishes for your baby’s adoptive family. They are great resources, so be sure to ask them any and all questions you have. You can even ask them to highlight any other details you feel you should be aware of.
3. Search Through Profile Books
Once you decide on your criteria for the adoptive family, your adoption professional will present you with several prospective adoptive parent options. These will be illustrated through profile books that the hopeful adoptive parents have previously put together and submitted to the agency. Through pictures and carefully composed paragraphs, you’ll be able to learn what each family is like and catch a glimpse of the potential life your baby could have with them. Remember not to rush. This is a crucial step in creating your adoption plan.
If you and the adoptive parents both agree to an open adoption agreement, you have the option of arranging a phone call once you are matched with the family, but it’s not a must. From there, you can meet the adoptive parents in person to establish a relationship before your baby is born. The choice is completely up to you.
4. Prepare Yourself
Before you meet with the adoptive parents you select – whether over the phone or face-to-face – it’s important to keep your expectations realistic. Listen to your instincts, too. It’s imperative that you select someone who you feel comfortable placing your baby with. If you get a good vibe and feel confident as you get to know them, take that as a good sign.
5. Learn and Grow Together
Selecting the adoptive parents that your child will be placed with is a major milestone when creating your adoption plan! Value every moment you have getting to know them before your baby arrives. Get to know them the best you can. Make sure that you all work out how things will look moving forward. How involved you will be in your child’s life, and what the first few months post birth and adoption finalization will be like. Communicate your hospital plan to the adoptive parents as well (directly or through your adoption professional). Discuss whether or not they’ll be in the delivery room with you, who will cut the umbilical cord, and who will be the first to hold him or her.
Determining all these details ahead of time will help ensure everyone’s happiness, safety and health when emotions are high. However, these plans do not need to be set in stone. If you want to change something last minute in the hospital or during the delivery process, that’s perfectly fine. Your adoption professional will be there to support you no matter what and will handle any necessary communications. You don’t need to worry about a thing!
Creating Your Adoption Plan
Your adoption journey is a lifelong decision. Don’t rush the process. Even if you decide to place your baby for adoption late in your pregnancy or after delivery. Take your time. Creating your adoption plan is a unique process. From the level of openness to what you look for in a prospective family. The most important thing for you to keep in mind is what you feel is best for you and your baby. Adoption Choices of New York will take it from there.
Adoption Choices of New York
Over the past seventeen (17) years, Adoption Choices of New York has helped many individuals and couples make adoption plans and complete their families through the miracle of adoption. Our staff has well-established relationships with agencies and attorneys across the nation, as well as Adoption Choices agencies in many other states. As a leader in the adoption community, we have a genuine commitment to a sensitive, comprehensive and supportive experience for all involved in the adoption journey. We are dedicated to ensuring that your adoption is processed in a professional, competent and caring manner and would be delighted to answer your questions.
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact us.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
“How Do I Start an Adoption Plan?” Adoption.org, adoption.org/start-adoption-plan.