Choosing the Right Type of Adoption for Your Adoption Plan
Placing your child for adoption can be an intimidating process initially, whether you are a young teen experiencing an unplanned pregnancy or a woman in her mid-30s. Each adoption is different, just like the relationships surrounding them. Just like the people and experiences involved are varied, so is their adoption journey.
The three main types of adoption are open, closed, and semi-open. The first step to making the right choice is educating yourself on each option to make an informed decision.
For more information or guidance about adoption in NY and the different types of adoption, contact Adoption Choices of New York for more insight. We understand your needs and wants, and we are here to help however we can.
An open adoption allows you and the adoptive family to remain connected during and after the adoption process. You will have access to each other’s personal information to stay in touch, which gives you more chances to build a relationship with the child as he or she grows older.
This is one of the most common forms of adoption today because it leaves room for the birth mother within the child’s new family unit. As the birth mother, you will be able to talk to your child about your role in their life. They will also get the opportunity to hear about their adoption story through you. The child gets to know where they came from and have all their questions answered by you.
Children who are adopted often have difficulty adapting to their identity as they get older. Having an open adoption will allow the birth mother to minimize the impact of this. The child will get to know that you loved them and that you had to make an uncomfortable but necessary decision to keep them safe, happy, and healthy.
Everybody’s situation is unique to them; so, if you find that the adoptive family knowing your personal information impedes your freedom, you can keep that information hidden. A closed adoption allows you and the adoptive family to keep things separate and private within your lives.
If you are in an unplanned pregnancy and do not have room in your life to care for a child or add other complex relationships, like an adoptive family, then having a closed adoption is a very valid option for you. No matter the reasoning behind your choice, it is within your rights. Choosing a closed adoption may be the best decision for you and your baby, and you have the power to determine that.
A semi-open adoption is a perfect grey area between the other two types of adoption. Adoptions are individual-based. You have full control over what you want and then work together with the adoptive family, depending on the level of openness that you choose. It lays out the privacy factors needed for the betterment of you, the adoptive family, and the child. It can also be less restricted to support a future connection between you and the child to any varying degree.
With a semi-open adoption, you have the option to keep things distant by only connecting with the child and the adoptive family virtually. This way, you can connect with them while still living your everyday life outside of the interaction. From there, you can decide how much information you want to give to them.
A semi-open adoption can give you peace of mind, knowing that the child is safe while remaining in contact with them and still having the flexibility of living within your terms and conditions.
Your Choice, Your Adoption Plan
Only you can make the best decision for you and the baby. Knowing the different options regarding types of adoption available can help you feel empowered in your choice. It can be a scary thing, but it does not have to be. Prioritize your and the baby’s health over the opinions of others.
Feel free to contact an adoption professional or social worker to gather more relevant information that can impact your decision. Contact Adoption Choices of New York to find other resources and support available to you throughout the adoption process. You do not have to do this alone.
Meet the Author: Latee Wilburn is an experienced blog/copywriter and social media marketer from the University of Georgia. She has written for many women’s lifestyle spaces, like Society19, BeautyDepot. She has also written for Adspire.us, a start-up working to inform young women in the ad/marketing industry, as well as tell the stories of the successful women before them. Her latest experience was writing and maintaining social media accounts for the true-crime community, MurderMurder News.
Her experience with writing expanded from childhood. It officially began after a creative writing course while she attended Perimeter College. The passion and love for writing quickly grew, and she began to hone her skills in social media marketing and copywriting. Fusing her two experiences to cultivate meaningful copy with an extra creative flair.
She’s currently finishing up her last year at UGA, majoring in Communications. She plans to attend graduate school to get a Master’s in Psychology and become a psychotherapist to help children and young adults with their mental well-being. Until then, she resides in her cozy reading nook in Georgia with her two dogs, Daisy & Peanut.