Choosing a Closed Adoption in New York
By Kaitlyn Chrisemer
If you’re a woman who is pregnant unexpectedly, you’re likely wondering what to do and what options you have9/9. If you’re considering adoption, that’s a good first step, but there are still more choices ahead. There are different types of adoption that you, as the birth mother, can choose from. The main types of adoption are open, closed, and semi-open. We can help you make your New York adoption plan based on your preferences.
At our adoption agencies, we want to ensure you get the help you need. Our main goal is to ensure you are comfortable and satisfied with your adoption process. At Adoption Choices of New York, we can inform and support you every step along the way. Here, we’ll be diving into what a closed adoption looks like and how you can choose this type.
What is a Closed Adoption?
A closed adoption is when the birth mother decides not to share any identifying information with the adoptive family. This means that the adoptive family will not know who you are or have any contact with you. In this case, the baby also doesn’t know who you are or have contact with you, even when they’re older. With closed adoptions, you don’t even have to be involved in choosing the adoptive family if you don’t want to.
You will not be involved in the majority of the decisions about the adoption process, such as placement or meeting the adoptive family. This means that you have to trust Adoption Choices of New York to find the right home for your baby. We will always have the baby’s best interests in mind when making these decisions.
Reasons for Choosing a Closed Adoption
The first main reason birth mothers choose closed adoptions is privacy. As a woman experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, you may feel vulnerable choosing adoption. A closed adoption will ensure that the adoptive family will never be given your information. You will never be contacted by them or the child. It is nearly impossible for you or any extended birth family members to be identified. A closed adoption is recommended if you feel uncomfortable with your child or the adoptive family knowing your personal information.
Another reason for choosing a closed adoption is it may help with closure. When placing your baby for adoption, emotions may be running high. Many birth mothers have reported that a closed adoption provided a sense of closure which helped them move on. Closed adoptions allow for a strong sense of closure and finality once the adoption is finalized. This can help birth mothers and families with any grief they may feel, so they can move on more easily.
The next main reason a birth mother may prefer a closed adoption is that it may reduce fear and stress. Many birth mothers considering putting a baby up for adoption may feel overwhelmed by all the upcoming decisions. If you feel stressed about making the right decisions throughout this process, you may want to consider a closed adoption. Having a closed adoption lets you avoid the decision-making you may not be ready for. Additionally, if you are worried about explaining your choices to others in your life, a closed adoption offers a buffer. Being uninvolved in the decision-making means you won’t have to explain yourself if you feel loved ones may be unsupportive.
Benefits of a Closed Adoption
Birth mothers often worry that a closed adoption will harm their child as they grow up. However, a closed adoption can benefit the child in the long run. Depending on the situation, it could provide the child with safety and protection they’ll never know they need. For example, if the birth father or someone else in your life may want to harm the baby, a closed adoption helps. Only the adoption agency will know who you are and the adoptive family. This will protect the child from any potential harm by making their new home unknown to any threats.
In addition, there will be no confusion about boundaries. When the birth family is involved in the adoption, there can be complications with the adoptive family. Sometimes the birth parents may disagree with the adoptive family’s parenting methods and interfere. This can impact the baby if the issue is large-scale and surrounds a significant topic. A closed adoption can help the process of adopting out a baby occur safely and smoothly.
Moving Forward with Adoption in New York
If you’re looking for adoption agencies in NYC, look no further. Adoption Choices of New York has adoption agencies in Albany, NYC, Buffalo, and Rochester. We can even come to you! If a closed adoption sounds like the right fit for you, contact us for help moving forward. Remember that we are here to support you on your adoption journey and acknowledge that each adoption is unique. Please don’t be afraid to contact us for help. Our agencies are a safe space and judgment-free zone. We are here for you to support you on your journey and make sure you’re comfortable.
Adoption Choices of New York is available to assist with your adoption plan. Call us, text us, or email us; we are here for you!
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