No decision is free from pros and cons. There are always advantages and disadvantages to something, no matter what we do. The same goes for adoption. When determining the type of adoption that you want, you’ll notice that closed, semi-open and open each has its own set of risks and benefits. This is because there are a wide range of family structures, and no “one size fits all.”
At Adoption Choices of New York, we encourage all of our adoptive parents and birth parents to look at open adoption when they are starting their journey. We believe that there are several amazing benefits of open adoption that need to be taken into consideration. Over the past few years, open adoption has proven that it maintains the best interests of the birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptee all at heart in a healthy and meaningful way.
Gives Birth Parents Peace of Mind
One of the most excruciating parts of the adoption journey for birth parents is facing life after leaving the hospital. Having only the image of the adoption process and hospital experience, and not knowing what happens after that. If you and the baby arrive home safely. How you and the baby adjust to your new life together, and if the baby stays happy, safe and healthy.
Open adoption agreements remove all of that worry and anxiety, and give birth parents peace of mind. Being able to communicate with you, see pictures of the baby growing up, and getting visits lets them see what happens firsthand and helps affirm that they made the right decision by entrusting their baby to you and your family.
Adoptive Parents have Access to Medical Records
This is one of the incredibly valuable benefits of open adoption for adoptive parents. Knowing your son or daughter’s mental health and medical history eliminates all guess work when your child becomes sick. It also helps adoptive parents be prepared for the future. For instance, if your child has a predisposition towards a mental health issue or another medical condition, you can learn about it ahead of time and learn what to watch out for as your child grows.
It’s important to note that sometimes medical history relating to your child’s biological grandparents or great-grandparents may not be recoverable. In some cases, this may also include the birth father’s medical information as well. But, rest assured, adoption agencies and adoption professionals retrieve everything they possibly can from the birth parents.
Adoptees have their Background Information
For an adoptee, knowing their heritage and where they came from is huge. Understanding their adoption story, and learning the reasons they were placed for adoption from the beginning greatly helps in preventing the risk of an identity crisis. Especially during the years that they are forming a sense of self.
Studies show that open adoption has an enormous benefit to adoptees. Growing up with their birth parents in their life permits them to gain insight into the life they could have had, and to get answers for all their deep questions. Open adoption agreements also remove the need for the adoptee to search for his or her birth parents later in life.
An Extension of Family
Another one of the fabulous benefits of open adoption is that it allows the birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptees the opportunity to form a lifelong relationship. This, in turn, gives the adoptee double the amount of family and support. Not only do they have their adoptive parents and everyone in that circle, but they also have their birth parents and everyone there as well. More aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents. So many more people who will love and support your child as they grow up.
Adoptive parents and birth parents typically meet each other at the start of the adoption journey, then throughout the adoption process. Communicating via phone, email, text or in person. This gives them ample time to work out the adoption plan and logistics of everything, while forming a relationship of trust, honesty and respect before the birth and delivery.
Benefits of Open Adoption
Amidst all the wonderful benefits of open adoption, the biggest is that everyone’s best interests are kept at the forefront of the process. The birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptee are all positively impacted, and are able to coexist in a happy and healthy manner. No more secrecy. No more big unanswered questions. No more unhealthy grief.
Open adoptions are becoming more and more popular every year, and the feedback just as expansive. It is quickly being known as the number one way to adopt a child. Seemingly the world is extending their favor towards having openness in adoption, and giving the adopted child and birth parents the information they need to lead happy, safe and healthy lives.
Adoption Choices of New York
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
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