For the past nine months, you’ve faced your unplanned pregnancy bravely. You’ve kept up with all the necessary doctor’s appointments and remained as healthy as possible. Things have gone more smoothly than you first anticipated, and you’ve wondered if you could actually do this parenting thing. But, now, you’re lying in your hospital bed. Your baby is here, and you know that you can’t give him or her their best chance at life.
Is placing your baby for adoption after birth a possibility for you? The short answer is yes. It is never too late to choose adoption for you and your baby, and Adoption Choices of New York is more than happy to help you out.
What’s nice is that the adoption process pre- and post-birth doesn’t vary that much. It all follows a similar path; although, your adoption journey may be expedited as your baby is already born and you are looking for an after-delivery adoption.
Step One: Choose Adoption
Before moving forward with an adoption plan, you must first make sure you’re confident that choosing adoption is what you want. You alone know what’s best for you and your baby. No one can make this decision for you. Just as no one should pressure you into choosing what you and your baby’s future will look like. Adoption is irreversible.
Step Two: Choose an Adoption Agency/Professional
If you are 100% certain that adoption is the right choice, you can then complete a hospital adoption. Let one of the nurse staff know your decision and they will give you information about the local adoption agencies in the area – like us at Adoption Choices of New York. From there, one of our social caseworkers will help you determine the rest of the details. For instance, what type of adoption you’re looking for, and any requirements you have in an adoptive family.
Step Three: Choose Your Baby’s Adoptive Family
Even though you are choosing adoption from your hospital bed, you still have the opportunity to select your child’s adoptive family. Your adoption professional can provide profile books of waiting adoptive families to help you with this. They can also arrange a phone call with the couple you’ve chosen if you’d like to get to know them a little bit more before your baby gets officially placed with them.
Step Four: Place Your Baby for Adoption at Hospital
How this next portion of the adoption journey goes is completely up to you. As this is when your baby goes to his or her adoptive family, you are allowed as much time as you need to say goodbye. If you don’t feel comfortable interacting with the new family in person, or want to postpone your face-to-face meeting for a later time, that’s ok too. Whatever you decide, your adoption professional will respect your wishes and make sure that things go as smoothly as possible.
If you’ve chosen an open adoption agreement, your goodbye at the hospital doesn’t have to mean forever. Rather, it can symbolize the beginning of something beautiful. That is, the chance to witness your son or daughter flourish with their adoptive family and grow into a happy and healthy adult. Contact after the hospital can start small with photo updates, letters and occasional phone calls and go from there. It all depends on the agreement you and the adoptive parents make.
Adoption Choices of New York encourages open adoptions as we believe this keeps everyone’s best interests at heart. It also gives you the chance to establish and build lifelong relationships with your baby and his or her adoptive family moving forward.
Adoption Choices of New York
For more information on adoption or if you are currently in the process of adopting a baby and have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact, Adoption Choices of New York.
Support Adoption Choices
Adoption Choices, Inc. is partnering with Crowdrise, a fundraising website for nonprofits, to help our adoptive parents and birth parents with much needed financial assistance. We understand that expenses keep clients from fulfilling their dreams. Both with birth parents making a plan for adoption, and with adoptive parents growing their family. It is our mission to provide financial assistance through grants and scholarships, awarded annually in November, in honor of National Adoption Month. Funds assist adoptive parents with matching and placements, adoption finalization and helping birth mothers improve their lives through higher education — and much more.
However, we can’t do it alone. Please read up on our programs and donate money where you are able. Your donation will make a huge impact.
About the Author
Rachel Robertson is a published journalist, book editor, certified Publishing Specialist, and aspiring novelist. She graduated from Central Washington University (CWU) in March 2011, having found her writing voice within the Creative Nonfiction genre and grew to work as a freelance book editor for small presses all across the United States.
In June 2018, she embarked on an internship with Virginia Frank and came on board with Adoption Choices Inc., Not for Profit 501(c)(3), in December 2018. Between her mutual passion with adoption and surrogacy, and her own personal history with adoption, Rachel is excited to research and share topics each week that will spread awareness and better serve the faithful patrons of Adoption Choices Inc.
When Rachel isn’t haunting her local Starbucks or Barnes and Noble, she’s avidly pouring over her Writer’s Digest subscription or cozying up with a cup of tea and book. She currently resides in the beautiful Pacific Northwest with her beloved wife and Border Collie.
“How to Complete a Hospital Adoption.” Considering Adoption, consideringadoption.com/pregnant/when-can-you-choose-adoption/giving-baby-up-at-hospital.