Adoption When the Birth Father is Unknown or Unsupportive in New York
An adoption when the birth father is unknown or unsupportive can seem frightening. It might make you feel alone, unsure of the future, and insecure in your decisions. But when you choose adoption, you’ve already made the toughest and bravest choice. We believe in you and your journey, and you will get through this.
Unfortunately, your situation is common. And even when the birth father is unknown, he is not often supportive or involved in the adoption process at all. The good thing about this is that our specialists are experts in handling these situations. You’re not alone. There are many other birth mothers just like you. If you’re dealing with an unsupportive birth father, you should never feel ashamed of your situation.
You’re empowered to make the best choice for your child, with or without the birth father. While he can fight for his right to parent his child, this would have to be done through the courts and is uncommon. At Adoption Choices of New York, we support your choice. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, we will support you every step of the way.
- Unknown Birth Fathers
An adoption when the birth father is unknown doesn’t change at all. You are empowered to make choices in your life, and it doesn’t matter who fathered your child. It doesn’t matter to the agency, and it doesn’t matter to the adoptive parents. What matters is that you chose adoption because you want to put your child first. The birth father is not needed in order for you to choose adoption. You can go through the whole adoption process in New York by yourself, though you’re never alone. You have the agency, your counselors, specialists, your child, your family and friends, and your child’s adoptive family, who will be forever grateful that you chose adoption.
Adoption Choices of New York will try to identify, locate, and contact the birth father, but it’s not necessary in order for you to follow through with the adoption. It’s our due diligence as an agency, but first and foremost, we are here to support you and find your child an adoptive family. Our goal is to get his consent in the adoption. But if we cannot reach him, we will still proceed with the adoption.
- Unsupportive Birth Fathers
If the birth father is known and he will not consent to the adoption, this would make him unsupportive. In an adoption, when the birth father is unsupportive in New York, he has two choices. He can fight for custody of his child and prove he can raise the child on his own. Or, he can consent to the adoption and potentially be a part of his child’s life as a birth father in the future.
If the birth father is known and simply does not want to be a part of the adoption process whatsoever but isn’t against it, that’s okay. In New York adoptions, we will still go through with the adoption process as normal. Remember that plenty of women have their adoption journey without knowing the adoptive father’s identity. Even though he is the father of your child, you can go on your adoption journey without him. In the future, when your child is happy and healthy with the adoptive family, he or she will think of you fondly as the person who made the difficult choices that brought the adoptee to their present moments.
Your Adoption Journey Without the Birth Father
When you don’t know the birth father or he isn’t supportive of your decision to place your baby for adoption, it can feel scary. The future can feel uncertain. But your future begins with you. The best thing you can do is keep moving forward and trust in your adoption process.
Even if the adoptive father is unsupportive and seeking out custody, the outcome is still uncertain. Adoption is still an option, and it’s something you can do even if the birth father is unknown or not in your life. At Adoption Choices of New York, you’re in good hands. We’ll do everything we can to support you and your adoption journey.
Adoption Choices of New York is available to assist with your adoption plan. Call us, text us, email us; we are here for you!
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Meet the Author: Tara Giuffre has always loved reading and writing and grew up in the worlds of Narnia, Harry Potter and A Series of Unfortunate Events. Taking this passion for stories, she received a degree from Rutgers University in Journalism & Media. Besides writing, she likes long walks on the beach, spending time with her family (and her cat, Sansa), and baking the perfect loaf of bread.
She enjoys sharing vital information about adoption and birth mothers choosing adoption to families making important choices for their future family!