Adoption in New York: 4 Ways You Are In Control of Your Adoption Plan
Adoption can be a scary, stressful time. It might be all new to you: unplanned pregnancy, the future up in the air, and so many choices up to you. But there’s power in choice. Choices, big and small, that you get to make. You should never feel pressured by anyone about your next step after an unplanned pregnancy. The final choice is up to you. And if you choose adoption, that choice is yours, as well. A reputable agency will not pressure you or force you into any one decision. At Adoption Choices of New York, we will inform you and allow you to make the choice that suits your needs.
When you choose to place your baby for adoption, each step you take is yours. You are in control of your adoption plan at all times. This can help you feel empowered, knowing that even though your pregnancy was unplanned, your future is yours to decide. At our New York adoption agency, we’ll inform you about the adoption process so that you can make informed decisions throughout your adoption journey.
- Choosing Adoption
Your first step is choosing adoption. You should never feel pressured to make this choice, not from family and especially not from an agency. If adoption isn’t your choice, and if you can’t see the positives of it, then it might not be for you. You might harbor regrets throughout and after the adoption, which will put stress on your journey and your baby.
But, like all of your New York adoption process, when your decisions are your own, you’ll feel confident and empowered. You’ll know that adoption is giving your baby a chance to live the life you’ve envisioned for him and her. It can bring your child opportunity and adoptive parents that will raise the adoptee with love.
- The Type of Adoption
After you choose adoption, you’ll need to decide on the type of adoption you prefer. The different types of adoptions are out there to suit your unique situation. They’re there to protect you and your child and provide the best arrangement for you. Once you decide on a type of adoption, you’ll be able to choose adoptive parents that want the same arrangement. This way, you’ll feel no external pressure about the type of adoption you prefer. It’s all about you and your baby.
- Closed adoptions are usually preferred by people who desire privacy during and after the adoption process. Birth mothers who choose closed adoption may need to protect their baby’s privacy and their own due to an abusive partner or living situation.
Alternatively, some birth mothers cannot imagine surviving the grief of adoption if they have contact with their child. They believe that the best way to cope with adoption is to grieve privately and move on from their pregnancy.
Through closed adoption, an agency will only share non-identifying information with potential adoptive families. If you choose closed adoption, your identifying information is completely private.
- Open adoption is on the rise nowadays, with birth mothers and adoptive families preferring the option to share information openly, leaving the door open to build a relationship between families. Through open adoption, you and the adoptive family can arrange times to talk and meet. The adoptee will always have a connection to you, which avoids any feelings of abandonment. Open adoption helps the adoptee realize why the birth mother chose adoption, and how it was the best choice. Depending on the openness of the adoption, you have the chance to build a relationship with your child. The parental role will always go to the adoptive family, but your child will know that you love them.
- Semi-open adoption is the middle ground of adoptions. You will receive information about your child, but your New York adoption agency will facilitate all contact.Unlike closed adoption, semi-open adoption can be opened up in the future, if both you and the adoptive family agree.
- Adoptive Parents
When you decide that adoption is the best choice for you, you likely already have an image of an adoptive family in your mind. The best thing about adoption is that you can meet this image as closely as possible through our adoption agency. We’ll provide you with adoptive family profiles curated to your needs. When you look through prospective adoptive families, you’ll have the opportunity to narrow choices down yourself. Do you want your child to be raised in a large family, one where he or she will have big brothers and sisters? Do you see your child with a religious family, one that resembles the culture you grew up in? Maybe you see your child in a house with a big yard, where he or she can run and play.
It’s all up to you, and it’s possible to find a “perfect” family, even if they don’t match your image completely. Once you’re able to talk to families and get to know them, you might find that you just click, and your choice is made.
- Hospital Plan
One major part of adoption is the hospital plan. When the time comes to go into labor, you want to be prepared with a plan. After choosing adoption, you might be worried that the hospital plan won’t be your own and that as soon as you give birth to your baby, social workers will swoop in to take him or her away. But that’s not true at all. You’ll be able to make your hospital plan for you and your baby. Even though you aren’t raising your child, you can still have your loved ones in the room with you to support you. Some birth mothers have the adoptive family in the delivery room so that you all can meet the adoptee together.
Your adoption journey is yours from the moment you decide adoption is the best choice for you and your baby.
Birth Mothers in New York Have Control Over Their Adoption Plan
Birth mothers should always feel informed and empowered throughout their adoption journey. Every choice is their own, and while that might seem scary, we at Adoption Choices of New York will make sure that you are informed and confident. Even though the choice is yours, you should never feel alone in the process. If you are a woman experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and are considering adoption, never hesitate to reach out to our New York adoption agency. We’re here to help you take control of your adoption journey.
Adoption Choices of New York is available to assist with your adoption plan. If you are are facing a teen pregnancy, or if you are a pregnant woman in her 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or older, Contact Us 24/7: 800-505-8592 (Phone) | 518-478-8420 | Click to Email
Meet the Author: Tara Giuffre has always loved reading and writing and grew up in the worlds of Narnia, Harry Potter and A Series of Unfortunate Events. Taking this passion for stories, she received a degree from Rutgers University in Journalism & Media. Besides writing, she likes long walks on the beach, spending time with her family (and her cat, Sansa), and baking the perfect loaf of bread.
She enjoys sharing vital information about adoption and birth mothers choosing adoption to families making important choices for their future family!