5 Things to Consider When Creating Your Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother
When you first decide on adoption in NY, you might feel overwhelmed about everything you have to consider. You might not even know where to start. This is totally fine and natural. Adoption can feel stressful and scary, but, with Adoption Choices of New York, you’re in good hands. Our professional adoption team will support you in making the best adoption plan possible for you and your child.
- Know the Adoption Process
Learning the adoption process step-by-step will help you through your adoption journey. You can’t consider everything all at once. That would be way too stressful. But what you can do is learn what’s coming. Know what your first step will be, and the one after that. This way, there’ll be no surprises — and less stress.
Our adoption team at Adoption Choices of New York won’t leave you alone with your research, though. Our adoption specialists will show you the path ahead. We’ll walk you through every step of the way.
- Find a Support System
Not only are we here to take you through every step of the adoption process, but we also understand that this can be a stressful situation, no matter how prepared you are. Your body is working hard to make a new human, all while you are trying to make plans for your baby’s future and carry all of your other responsibilities. We get it. That’s why we’ll connect you with one-on-one counseling with specialists, as well as group counseling with other birth mothers just like you.
Our goal is that you never feel alone in your journey. There are always people who want to help you and who want to listen. You can feel comforted knowing there are other people experiencing the same thing as you, who’ll understand everything you’re feeling.
- Choose the Type of Adoption You Want
Once you know each step of the adoption process and you have a steady support team, you’ll want to decide which type of adoption is best for you and your child. There are three basic types of adoption:
- Closed Adoption: your identity remains confidential and (indirect) contact with the adoptive family is little to none.
- Semi-Open Adoption: communication is facilitated by our adoption agency through a secure, private online portal called ChildConnect. Sending photos, letters, updates, and the frequency of communication can be determined by both you and the adoptive family
- Open Adoption: You and the adoptive family may communicate freely and as much as both parties decide. Visits are possible, virtually and/or in person, depending on how much communication you and the adoptive family would like
When creating your adoption plan as a birth mother, these decisions are entirely up to you and your comfort level. We will never pressure you to choose one way or the other. If you ever feel conflicted, remember that our adoption agency in New York has all the resources you need to guide you.
- Select the Adoptive Family You Want for Your Child
At Adoption Choices of New York, we make choosing your child’s adoptive family as simple as possible. We’ll provide you with profiles of prospective adoptive families, aiming to match them to your preferences. What kind of parents would you like for your child? It might be difficult to picture this. Or you might have already imagined the best adoptive family for your child. In any case, here are some qualities consider in adoptive parents:
- Other children
- One-parent or two-parent home
- Large or small extended family
Remember, you are in the power to decide what kind of adoptive family you’d like for your child. When you’re creating your adoption plan as a birth mother, you might consider what kind of adoptive family you see your child thriving with the most.
- Establish Your Hospital Plan in Your Adoption Plan
Once you’ve made all the big decisions for your child’s future, it’s time to think about yourself. You’ll choose who you’d like in the delivery room with you, if you’d like to spend time with your child after the delivery and if/how much you’d like the adoptive family involved. Like with any other big decision in your adoption journey, we won’t make you decide alone. We’ll always make sure you understand the process and are here to help.
Creating Your Adoption Plan as a Birth Mother
It’s true: there are a lot of choices when creating your adoption plan as a birth mother. But, the good news is that you’re in control every step of the way. With our adoption agency, you’ll make informed choices to provide your child with the best future possible, and to allow you a smooth adoption journey.
Meet the Author: Tara Giuffre has always loved reading and writing and grew up in the worlds of Narnia, Harry Potter and A Series of Unfortunate Events. Taking this passion for stories, she received a degree from Rutgers University in Journalism & Media. Besides writing, she likes long walks on the beach, spending time with her family (and her cat, Sansa), and baking the perfect loaf of bread.
She enjoys sharing vital information about adoption and birth mothers choosing adoption to families making important choices for their future family!