5 Reasons to Choose Gay Adoptive Parents for Your Child
In the adoption world, all kinds of families seek to adopt children: straight, single parents, multiracial, LGBT and more. The bottom line is: no one family is the same. The commonality here is that these are all people looking to grow their family. Gay families are no different. The call of fatherhood sounds regardless of sexual orientation. Just like anyone else, gay adoptive parents can do an amazing job of raising children.
At Adoption Choices of New York, we’ll provide you with many choices in adoptive families. We encourage you to consider a two dad household as you might any other. The most important thing is that your child ends up with adoptive parents who will love and care for him or her as their own.
1) Parenting is Universal
People often think of parenting as a feminine trait. Some think of mothers and their babies as enthusiastic, willing parents, with men just going along with it. However, men often feel the same desire to become parents that women do. In fact, studies have shown that men meant to be parents feel an innate draw to fatherhood. This proves that, as human beings in general, many of us naturally want to raise children.
For people in the LGBT community, adoption is the number one choice for couples and individuals looking to start a family. These parents often have positive expectations of adoption and see it as their first choice in parenthood. One of the reasons to choose gay adoptive parents is that they have less anxiety about adoption as an option.
2) Gay Parents are More Enthusiastic about Parenthood
Because of all the hoops gay adoptive parents have to jump through to become parents, they tend to be highly enthusiastic about parenthood. They have already faced naysayers and prejudices, and have overcome these by putting themselves forward as adoptive parents.
For a long time, gay people could not marry or adopt children, so it’s a wonderful thing that they can now. In fatherhood, gay adoptive parents tend to be more involved with their children as active parents. It’s always beneficial when children are raised by parents who are very present and invested in their lives. Increased involvement leads to better sociability, confidence, and higher school performance.
3) Your Child will be Raised to have Empathy
Children raised by gay adoptive parents are very rarely unaware of their parents’ sexuality. In fact, gay parents teach your child they are gay and that most parents aren’t. This way, your child will both be prepared for any assuming questions they get. They’ll also learn more about how many different types of people there are in the world.
By being aware of people’s unique differences from a young age, this can foster a sense of empathy for others. Your child can have an understanding of different types of families and social issues. Our differences make us unique and are worthy of being understood.
4) Your Child may have a Larger Family Network
Some people believe that a child must have a male and female parent in the household to be healthy. However, this is not the case. Having your child raised by gay adoptive parents is no different from being raised by heterosexual parents. Remember, no family is ever the same. Single moms have played “dad” as much as a dad can play “mom.” Same-sex parents can still fill opposite gender roles and stereotypes, like painting nails or cooking meals.
Some same-sex parents, however, will seek out help from their friends and family as a mentor in things specific to being a girl, for example. A dad may have a difficult time understanding what a period is like, but a woman can. This isn’t to say that a dad can’t run to the store for tampons and pads, or shouldn’t try to understand his child. But, some gay adoptive parents may choose to defer to a close female friend or family member for help with very gender-specific aspects of life. As the saying goes, “it takes a village to raise a child.”
5) An Adoptive Family is an Adoptive Family
Families come in all shapes and sizes. From all races, ethnicities, cultures, religions and sexual orientations. None of those facts, however, affect how an adoptive parent will raise your child. What matters is that they will love, care and support your child with everything they have. That your child’s adoptive parents will provide a safe, healthy and happy home, and give your son or daughter their best chance at life.
Family is more than blood and DNA. Adoption proves this every day. An adoptive family is an adoptive family. It doesn’t matter how they came together. What matters is that they found one another and formed a loving family unit.
So, if a prospective adoptive family has everything you envision for your child and happens to have two dads, there is no reason to have this deter you from choosing them.
Reasons to Choose Gay Adoptive Parents for Your Child
The most important thing for your child is not that he or she has certain types of parents — unless, of course, that type is loving, caring, and supportive. It’s actually that your child has parents who are enthusiastic about parenting, committed to adoption, and who will care for your child as their own.
We at Adoption Choices of New York hope this list helps you see the many wonderful and beneficial reasons to choose gay adoptive parents for your child. Deciding who will become your child’s adoptive family is a tough decision and not one to be taken lightly. That’s why we are here to help you research and get as much information as possible, so that you can choose the best fit for your child.
At the end of the day, the most important thing is that your child is placed with a loving adoptive family.
Meet the Author: Tara Giuffre has always loved reading and writing and grew up in the worlds of Narnia, Harry Potter and A Series of Unfortunate Events. Taking this passion for stories, she received a degree from Rutgers University in Journalism & Media. Besides writing, she likes long walks on the beach, spending time with her family (and her cat, Sansa), and baking the perfect loaf of bread.
She enjoys sharing vital information about adoption and birth mothers choosing adoption to families making important choices for their future family!