Raising a child is the most profound, rewarding, and life-changing undertaking a person can choose to pursue. Like many prospective parents, you may be wondering what life as an adoptive father will be like; below, we’ve gathered a few of our favorite insights from adoptive dads on why the job of dad is the absolute best. Let’s dig in…
1. Playtime is For Grownups Too
Let’s face it: we all miss playtime. One of the best parts of being an adoptive dad is getting to use your imagination again to thrill, entertain, and educate your child. Sometimes, being an adult starts to feel a little…boring. Whether it’s toys, games, or playing pretend, you’ll quickly find your recreational time is full of fun, laughter, and love. Maybe you miss pretending to be a superhero? Whether you’re amazing your kiddo with your (seemingly…) superhuman strength, or just hanging out together, you can rest assured you’ll be your child’s real-life superhero no matter what.
2. You’ll Always be a Five-Star Cook
Kids aren’t difficult to please when it comes to food…and, dads with even the most rudimentary cooking skills are sure to find a bevy of recipes constantly on request. Cooking with your child is even better, and you’ll be amazed by the imagination (for better or for worse, sometimes!) they’ll bring to the table. There’s never a need to get fancy: more often than not, just knowing they have a parent to look forward to spending dinner time with will ensure you enjoy the same adoration as a celebrity chef.
3. Experiencing all new treats with your child
Sure, of course we all want our children to enjoy healthy diets. That doesn’t mean, of course, that the occasional ice cream trip or surprise dinner out is out of the question! Now that you’re an adoptive dad, you owe it to your child (and yourself) to experience all the different cuisine options out there. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your child fall in love with a new food (especially for those picky eaters) or taking them out for a special treat, Ben and Jerry’s anyone?
4. Giving Them the Tools for Success
Even those of us who grew up with great families, a good education, and had those to guide us to make the best decisions, we can all agree: most of growing up is about making mistakes. One of your duties as an adoptive father is teaching your child the skills, virtues, and beliefs to build a happy and successful life. This means your past regrets, mistakes, or tough lessons don’t need to go by unheeded, since you can use those experiences to help your child make the best choices possible. There is no better teacher than a loving father, and you’ll always be your child’s go-to for even the toughest questions.
5. Being Proud Every Day
Our first few entries were mainly about what you can do for your adoptive child. This last one, however, is for you. Even the toughest jobs or most exotic hobbies pale in comparison to the pride, responsibility, and unconditional love of being a father. You’ve taken the greatest step a person can in choosing to become a parent, and now work double-time as a teacher, mentor, protector, and best friend. It’s a tricky feeling that is difficult to convey with mere words, but rest assured: you’re fit for the job, and you can be proud of yourself every day for the rest of your life for making the decision to do so.
It’s hard to list all of the many reasons why being an adoptive father is such a life-changing experience, but these have been just a few of our favorites. There is certainly much, much more to learn, love, and appreciate about becoming a father for a child in need. If you’d like to learn more about being an adoptive parent, consult our knowledge base or contact our team at Adoption Choices of New York.